How to Know When It’s Time to Move On
Knowing when to move on after your divorce may seem like the most complicated thing about it. You’ll inevitably have someone telling you that you need to get back out there while simultaneously being told that you’re not ready yet.
Only you will know when the time is right, and making sure that you’re actually over your ex is that first step to getting back out there. Think you’re ready to get started? Here are our top 7 tips for dating post-divorce.
1. Take It As Slow As You Need
There is no one size fits all solution to dating - even without having been divorced. The timeline is unique to you, so don’t feel pressured to rush into a serious relationship before you are ready.
2. Don’t Put Yourself in a Box
There are normally two distinct reactions when dating post-divorce: avoid anyone who reminds you of your ex or only date within your “type.” Throw these rules out the window and try to not limit yourself to a specific kind of person. You never know what you might find.
3. Be Cautious When It Comes to Your Kids
If you have children, it’s always best to make it known, but don’t be quick to introduce the people you’re dating to them. It’s highly likely that your kids won’t be immediately receptive to a new person in your life, so be prepared for any concerns they’ll bring up when you’re starting to get back out there.
4. Be Open and Honest
Divorce is a major event in anyone’s life, so don’t feel like you have to hide this part of yourself. Does this have to be a first date conversation? No, but don’t be afraid to open about it eventually.
5. Don’t Be Scared of Dating Apps
It’s the 21st century - there’s dating apps and services for virtually every kind of person, no matter the age or background. If you’re struggling to enter the dating scene, don’t be shy about making a profile and creating casual connections.
6. Trust Your Gut
If you get a bad feeling about someone, it’s probably true. The same goes for if it feels like something is too good to be true. If you have any reservations about a dating situation, trust your instincts and listen to your gut.
7. Think About What Matters Most
You. Take the time to think about what in your life you want to prioritize - and then put yourself at the top of the list.
Finding your footing in the dating world after a divorce can be challenging, but having the right people on your side can make it all worthwhile. If you need extra support during this time or are looking for modifications to your agreements, contact Levine Law Center LLC today by calling (503) 433-8340. Our Portland attorneys are here to help you and provide unique, compassionate representation for all your family law needs.